Okay, first off: Pfft. Just: Pfft.
As I’m fond of saying, there are no rules in journaling. If there are no rules, how can you be bad at it? Forge your own road. Follow your own path. Do your own thing.
You do you.
Yeah, sure, there are lavish Bullet Journal® (Bujo) spreads splashed all over Instagram and other social media sites. Some people spend hours designing their Bujo spreads and trackers each month. Just because those spreads are beautiful, that doesn’t mean they’re the “right” way to journal. Likewise, some people churn out three morning pages every day or religiously record the minutiae of their day in a personal diary. Other people keep art journals that have no text in them at all. Who says any of those are the “right” or “wrong” way to journal? Amirite?
If you walk away from journaling because you feel like your personal journal doesn’t measure up to other people’s expectations, just stahp it. Journal however you want, as often as you want.
That said, I do have one caveat for you: Do not regularly journal about negative stuff. THAT, my friends, is the only wrong way to journal. Because our writing journals are private, they’re safe places to express our deepest worries and, well, vent. But, as Katie Wells points out in her piece at Rebelle Society, we “concrete” the stories that we write down. We give them a physical space to live forever.
ALSO! If you believe in the law of attraction (and I do!), remember that you attract the same type of energy that you put out. If you focus on the negative, that’s the kind of energy you’ll attract. Cool cats, no one needs more negativity in their life. NO ONE. If you’re going through a rough patch and need to write it all out in order to process it, do it on foolscap. And then burn it: release it, let it go. Forever.
So. Stop with the negativity + do whatever else you please = the right way to journal. Easy peasy, eh? Or not. Sometimes when “rules” get THAT simple, it actually makes things tougher. Amirite? So if you need a little extra push to get started or to pull out your personal journal on a more regular basis, read on, cool cats. Read on.
1. Decide on a METHOD of Journaling that Sparks your Soul
‘k, this is basically a universal truth: if you like doing something, you’ll make a point of doing it. If it’s not fun, you’re more apt to make excuses and put it off.
As far as journaling goes, figure out what you like about it. Think about which journaling style speaks to you and brings you joy.
Some people are organizer types and the tidy spreads and trackers in Bujos speak to their souls. For other people, although they technically have a “Bujo,” it’s really all about the artwork. Their journals are more about breaking out the Mildliners® than maintaining a calendar. And for still others (like me!) it’s about sorting through their psyches by writing down ALL THE WORDS. Not one of these ways of journaling is better than any of the others. So just pick the one (or ones) that speak to you and dive in. And, hey, if something appeals to you that I haven’t included here--like daily lists (gratitude, happiness, etc.)--that’s fine too. Whatever floats your boat.
2. Choose a Journal that Brings you Joy
If you get giddy just looking at your journal, there’s a better chance you will pull it out and use it. There are a lot of options out there, as far as personal journals go. Casebound vs spiral. Hardcover vs soft. Dots vs lines vs blank. There’s also the paper color and weight to consider, as well as the overall size of the notebook. And, of course, it’s lovely if you can find a journal with a cover that speaks to you in some way, whether by its soul-affirming color, a stamped-on inspirational quote, or an etched design. Check out my blog on that if you need help deciding: How to Choose the Best Notebook for Journaling.
But you know what? There’s no law that says you have to use a notebook in order to journal. If you’d rather use an app, a blog, or just a plain old Word doc, that’s A-OK too. And, as an avid Facebook user, I’ve gotta point out that social media sites can work as journals. I’ve made a point of posting things just so that they will show up next year in my Memories app.
And hey, always remember: No one says you have to fill in an entire journal or stick with the same app forever. Feel free to move on if your first (or second) choice isn’t inspiring you to journal often.
3. Start Small
This tip may actually be a bit hypocritical coming from me. Because, cool cats, lemme tell ya: I know allllll about being seduced by bins of cheap washi tape. But, as they say, live and learn.
If you’re not sure if journaling is for you, or if you’re not sure what kind of physical journal you would best like to work in, start with a few dollar store items. Truly, all you need to journal is paper and a pen. But many dollar stores have a fair variety of journals to pick from as well as, of course, of all manner of stationery. Start by getting the essentials (journal, pens, pencils, ruler) and a few fun things if they speak to you, like stickers or a couple rolls of washi. As you discover your journaling style, you can add to your stash of stationery supplies.
4. Keep your Journals Handy
My journals live in a small desk in my living room. The pens and markers that I use most often are stashed in a cup on top of the desk; all other supplies are stowed in a plastic carry case that’s kept nearby. Having everything handy, and in the place where I most enjoy journaling, makes it easy for me to work on my journals whenever the mood strikes.
If you would work on your journals on the go--for instance, during your daily commute or on your lunch break--then, by all means, keep your supplies super handy by toting things along with you.
5. Set Reminders (Or Not)
Sometimes, having the prettiest, most portable journals in the world isn’t enough to make us write in them. Sometimes it’s just not having enough hours in the day. Cool cats, I feel ya. I do.
You don’t need a huge chunk of time to work on a personal journal. You could do it while having your morning coffee, for instance, instead of scrolling Facebook or checking your eBay watch list. Or, you could set aside 10 minutes each night before bed. Figure out a time of day when you can most likely spare a few minutes and then make reminder apps your friends.
6. Create Rituals and Discover Hygge
Journaling and hygge go together like tea and toast. Hygge is a Danish lifestyle concept that revolves around mindfulness, coziness, and ritual. Establishing rituals, like lighting a candle before beginning or journaling at a specific time each day, can help establish journaling as a habit. Likewise, creating a cozy spot where you feel relaxed and comforted can encourage you to retreat there and pull out your journal. Curious about hygge? Check out my blog on How to Use a Journal to Infuse your Life with Hygge.
7. Use Prompts
Sometimes we get stuck in our journals. Either we’re not sure where to start at all or we get into a rut, consistently revisiting the same topics. That’s where prompts come in.
Writing prompts are easy to find on the internet. Just search for “writing prompts” or “journaling prompts.” Or, if you’re keen to explore a certain theme, you can narrow down your search by looking for things like “gratitude writing prompts” or “happiness journal prompts.”
Another--fun!--type of prompt is a daily photograph. If you realize in the moment that you’ve come across something that you’d like to journal about, whip out your phone and take a snapshot. But, photos are so accessible now, whether you take them yourself or download inspiring ones as you come across them. You could also just scroll through your day’s photos and pick one that you’d like to write about.
8. Use a Wall Calendar
Regular wall calendars are da bomb for list-based journals. Let’s say you want to record 1-3 happy moments or 1-3 things that you’re grateful for each day. A wall calendar provides the perfect, concise, un-overwhelming format for this type of journaling.
9. Write Like You Talk
Don’t bore yourself to tears, cool cats, by using big fancy words. Be colloquial. Oops. Sorry. Be conversational. Hmph. How about: write like you talk. That is very much what I do here in these blogs. I pretend I’m talking to a friend and let the words flow out that way.
And on that note: who cares about spelling and grammar? Likely the only person who will ever read your journal is YOU. Is it more important to capture the moment fully so that your memory is sparked later or is it more important to spell everything correctly? Hey, I proofread other people’s writing for kicks and even I don’t care about spelling in my journal. Let that be your touchstone.
10. Don’t Compare!
One of the surest ways to ignite a fear of starting is to feel like your first journaling pages have to be as good as the person who went to art school, has been journaling for over a decade, and teaches Bujo classes at their community college. Cool cats, cut yourself some slack. If you want to look at other people’s journals for inspiration, go right ahead. But don’t even start with any comparisons. You are enough. Your journal is enough. Give yourself some time to figure it all out. And always remember: your journal is for YOU. You ain’t got nothing to prove.
You do you.
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Sparkly unicorns, you can absolutely set intentions through meditation alone. But, since I’m blogging for Sohospark -- and because I’m a writer at heart who loves using journals -- of course I’m going to focus on how to use your personal journals here. There are several benefits to getting your intentions down in a writing journal. Check out the blog post for tips and inspo.
There are a bunch of reasons why I love using a personal journal for my vision boards:
Hygge is about making the ordinary special, by practicing mindfulness and by ritualizing everyday activities. It’s also about creating a feeling of coziness, by restricting the amount of empty space around a person or group of people. The end result is a feeling of contentedness.
When you think about it, journaling is all about hygge.